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My boyfriend of 6 years has and adult daughter who's 24. She moved back home on her last year of college to live with him again because she didn't have friends in college. Her mom is bipolar and I believe she is unstable mentally, but very smart and cunning. She has a BMW and everything you could possibly imagine. She has dresses like you're wondering what shes thinking. He doesn't see this.
We were going to buy a house together at the time, but it all changed because I refused to live with her. We have no relationship and are very uncomfortable around each other.I have tried to talk to her when she's needed advice and she has looked to me for references for school and jobs, but its all fake. You see, I will help anyone , but I am not an "ass-kisser" to a someone who knows that her father will never leave her until she says he can.
I honestly can't stand her at all. I have no problem getting along with mostly anyone and am very social. I'm a manager at work, where I am well respected and liked.
My boyfriend has not moved on with me because of this and other responsibilities.I love him and have wanted a life with him. But, I am filled with unmanageable resentment and could honestly not care less if I ever had an interaction with her again.
I am embarrassed to say this at my age, 46, and being in the medical field for 30 years, caring for people, my parents and my children compassionately. it's who I am, but I can't deal with her. What can be done besides leaving him, because it's at it's breaking point.
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