Down On Love
I'll call myself Jack. I am 40. I was dating a guy that I fell completely in love with. I knew then (May 2002) that he was the one that I would grow old with. His words and actions at first made me truly believe that I definitely felt that in my heart. Unfortunately, he had a troubled childhood and I saw many warning flags right away but I couldn't stop my feelings and I tried to work threw them. Just 3 months after meeting him, he beat me badly and I ended up in the Emergency room. I ended the relationship immediately and he moved out of my apartment. I was convinced then and truly believed that he would be the last guy for me and that I would never be with another man again. Well, it has now been two full years since he beat me. I have not spoken to him again and I have gone on with my life. I'm not sure if this is a problem or not but I have not had sex with anyone since then and I still feel like he was the last chance at love. Whats your advice? At this point, the thought of sex and intimacy is the last thing that I want in my life. Is it ok that I have given up dating and sex or would it be healthier if I tried to trust again?
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