by John Gray and John Selby
Simon & Schuster Audio, 2004
Review by David M. Wolf, M.A. on Aug 23rd 2005
The sub-title, "Discover and
enjoy new realms of sexual intimacy and ecstasy... " truthfully announces
the inter-active listening in this program. As with other work by John Gray (Men
Are From Mars...) and John Selby on CD, this one aims less to impart
information than to open avenues of experience. It's not for your head--it's
The mode of presentation is for a
select audience, very definitely not for everybody. Who? It's aimed at those
with an active love life who need to slow down, calm the fears and agitations
of busy lives, and reach into the heart of experience for deeper awareness of
intimate love and passion. Women, more than many straight men, will find this
presentation appropriate, flowing, helpful, supportive.
The content is somewhat thin,
measured against most sex books/tapes out there, so a dubious comparison should
be resisted (and I am). This work is not about content--information--so much as
taking a few essential principles that encourage sexual feeling and reaching
imaginary spaces in which learning encounters can occur. This is self-help made
somewhat hypnotic; it's light trance-work guided toward opening the listeners'
This material is not oriented
toward masturbation, for the most part; the guide's voice would get much in the
way. So, following that voice--mostly John Selby--means only moving to those
steps of memory, imagination, experience or re-experience that he invites, one
step at a time. The pace is slow to this (male) listener, so it might be just
about right for many women.
The second CD in the set is music--easy,
flowing, dreamy for the most part. Presumably, it will allow the reveries that
the guided sessions do not. Indeed, it sounds better in the dark.
Is this CD set worth having and who
should buy it? It's certainly helpful and useful to anyone who has already
decided to seek something to improve her or his sexual experience, particularly
if the problems appear to be about intimacy. Such listeners have nothing to
lose and a whole world to gain. Give it a try.
© 2005 David Wolf
Wolf is the author of Philosophy That Works, a book about the practice
of philosophy. His book page for orders (hardback & paperback) is www.xlibris.com/philosophythatworks
; readers can also see the first chapter there.